In your FACE-book

* Disclaimer * The following contains some negative and  unreasonable views about social networking...please do not read on if you enjoy posting annoying status updates on your Facebook as you may be offended.

I'm really quite fed up with Facebook at the moment....well, more what people are posting on Facebook.
And yes I know that I can block those people who's status updates cause me to clench my jaw everytime I go on, but I Just...Can't...Look...Away!
I get so pissed off when I see what these people write, but then I also take the time to read them, so I guess I'm just all part of the game. But I decided to write this post and get it all out, because after my awesome weekend, I came home, checked my facebook, and ended up just feeling annoyed and depressed.

 I have a friend who I'm sure is pregnant with her 2nd by all these little hints that she leaving on her and other people's pages...
 (I have this thing called ESPP-Extra Sensory Pregnancy announcement Perception, it's a wonderful gift...not...)
...and yes it's wonderful for her if it's true, but I'm insanely jealous, and also a little sad that if it's what I think, it will be the second baby she will be pregnant with since I started trying to conceive, as we were trying for our first at the same time.And also- either keep it completely quiet, or just come out and say it you know?

I also have another of big G's friends with a 6 month old, who has been posting some really negative and personal statuses...either being pissed off with her husband or her "screaming baby" and how she wants some sleep etc etc. And again, yes I realise it's crazy hard being a parent, and yes I know that I won't understand until I'm one myself....but why do people feel the need to write such personal things about their life? Did I really need to know that her husband has pissed her off something terrible and obviously gone out leaving her at home with her 'screaming baby'.Maybe she needs to discuss that with him first, and not her 200 friends on facebook.

And then why do people feel the need to write a status update that leaves us guessing or wondering for days what the hell is going on....people who write just one word like.... "gutted", or "sad", am I expected to then play a guessing game by commenting "are you...gutted that your pet mouse has died?, or how about gutted that the the Hoff has left town?
Or is it supposed to attract a flurry of comments oohhing and ahhing with people saying "I hope everything's okay".Fo gods sake either come out and say what's up or don't post at all. Or if you do need a supportive friend, how about phone someone or go around and have some face to face contact!Or there's this wonderful thing on Facebook where you can send PRIVATE messages!

I'm not perfect myself , I have done my share of moaning and slightly hint dropping facebook comments, but a while ago I decided that the world doesn't really need to know every tiny detail of what I'm thinking or feeling, some things are best kept private, and this blog is a great outlet for things like that!

It's especially hard being infertile on facebook. Every day you're bombarded with pregnancy announcements and updates, scan pictures, that's not so bad-everyone's entitled to be excited and proud of their baby- the worse thing is the complaining. You understand that it's a hard thing to go through, but when you're on the other side of the fertility fence and you just so want to be in their shoes, the negative comments about pregnancy and being 'fat' and parenthood are a little hard to stomach. And I hope that because I have been and currently are on the other side of the fertility fence (which seems to be well barricaded with barbed wire at the moment), that I won't forget what it's like when I'm pregnant or have a baby, and maybe have a bit more sensitivity in what I post about.

I have a couple of fertile friends in fact, who are reasonably avid facebook users, but when they became pregnant, they did a 12 week announcement, the odd update throughout the pregnancy, and a few bump pics, and NO moaning about how 'fat' they were- it was a breath of fresh air!

So I think I may start a rival networking site, called  In your FACE-book, a rebel movement especially designed for all infertiles who don't want to hear about every burp and fart that their friend's babies do, nor about how much their friends seem to despair being parents and having to get up in the night to feed their baby....who's hungry....cos that's what babies do...and that's what you signed up for....

So who's in!